They can look back on situations later and analyze them from more angles but they don’t do it in real time. Not only is it difficult for them but they aren’t aware that this is occurring in the first place.

Anyway, thanks for replying. That is definitely something worth thinking about.

Really enjoyed this one. As a parent, I worry sometimes about whether my kids are going to be too sensitized to their peers’ opinions of them.

You know, kids can be very cruel. And the kids that get hurt carry that stuff around with them. This gets into the whole self esteem discussion.

I am trying to condition my kids to know themselves better, and to know that they are loved, so that these comments seem incongruous to them, and therefore likely wrong from the beginning.

But some people seem born to be sensitive to the opinions of others. It’s a hard thing for them to overcome. It’s like they have to step outside of themselves and objectively consider what’s being said or implied about them, while ignoring their initial emotional reaction.

That kind of mental/emotional dance requires a distancing of yourself from your reactions, and that’s a pretty mature skill.

Anyway, VERY important topic. Thank you for writing it!

All the best,

Hugh
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I appreciate your reply, Amit. I wish you well.

Thanks for the reply and I wish you the very best in your future endeavors.

In addition to the above I’d like to add one important thing. That is that anyone who does something worth doing gets criticised at one point or another.

In the beginning I heard nothing but good things about ‘The Secret’ nowadays, I hear nothing but criticism. Your critics are you friends because when you realise that they serve a purpose in making you stronger you can’t help but like them!

One of my very close friends is a very serious political blogger and journalist, he was telling me at poker last week how he was criticised in two of the national newspapers by other journalists about one of his articles. He thrived off the criticism and it only made him stronger and more determined. (and fed his ego too!)

The way I like to think of it is, that my critics are my best friends!
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